Mind Blowing - by Nita Marquez

Mind Blowing - by Nita Marquez

The fact is, many women enter into relationships because of what we can be for a man that will make him “better.” (Linguistic denial code for, “I need to change someone besides myself.”) And men select those women based on how they can become better men as a result of being with that woman. (Code for,”I want someone else to do the work to make sure I fulfill my manhood.”)

Four Feet and A Sheet

Four Feet and A Sheet

I’m not inciting hate, discriminating, exploiting, bullying, or disrespecting anyone.  This is a feminist piece using the word SLUT to make a point.  What I’m doing is addressing an issue that has become all too taboo; why is sex wrong?  Why is talking about sex wrong?  Why can’t we face our need for contact and connection head on? 

Fling or Flame?

I was out for drinks with one of my girls telling her about an old flame, no fling, well, a guy I used to date, fine, sleep with, who recently texted out of the blue and asked to go for coffee.

As I was describing who this guy was I was trying to figure out what category he belonged in.  Fling or flame?  He definitely wasn’t a boyfriend. Then I thought to myself; what’s the difference?  Is there a difference between a fling and a flame?